Says the happily-married-with-children coworker:
“It is SOOOO unprofessional for people who work together to date. Can you believe that some people who work here actually met here and got MARRIED? How unprofessional!”
Easy for you to say, Ms. “I-Got-Mine-So-To-Hell-With-The-Rest-Of-The-World”!
I’m almost 35. I’m not in college any more. I avoid the brainwashing of organized religion. If I went to a BAR to pick up guys, I’d be looked down upon (and that’s not me anyway). So what am I supposed to do, just wait for divine intervention? Sorry, that only happens in movies.
Flaunting a dating relationship at work is unprofessional. Using a relationship to get ahead in the workplace is unprofessional. Using your position to coerce people into going out with you is unprofessional. But two coworkers who genuinely like each other, getting together after hours to enjoy each other’s company? What the fuck is wrong with that? It’s all in the way it is handled.
If you’re a shithead that lies to and cheats on the opposite sex, ya might not want to date a coworker. If you’re a perv who is only out for one thing, keep it out of the workplace. If you’re a “big-wig” and you plan on retaliating against your date if she dumps you, by demoting her or getting her fired, then you shouldn’t date ANYONE, you prick. But if you are seeking a real connection with someone, and you meet that someone at work, why not pursue it tactfully and discreetly?
Don’t you love how people who already “got theirs” judge the singles? Basically, we should just know our place and sit at home alone for the rest of our lives. We didn’t meet and marry in college, so we missed our chance. Now it’s time for us to shut up. Because dating in the workplace is wrong, online dating or speed-dating is pathetic and we should be ashamed of ourselves, church is packed with other married people so that’s not an option.
Oh, and if we are set up on a blind date and it’s not a “love connection”, then we’re “too picky”. Because if I am single, and the OTHER guy is single, well isn’t that all we have to have in common? Shouldn’t we force a relationship? Beggars can’t be choosers.
Hey, Molly McMarried, YOU didn’t marry every guy you ever dated. Why should we? Are we so “beneath you” that we should just take what we can get, never mind the fact there is no common interests, no personality match, no chemistry?
And just an aside: Do you think we are so stupid that we don’t notice that we don’t get invited to your parties because we’re not part of a “couple” and it would make uneven teams during Pictionary?
Mary’s Thought of the Day
Married people: cram it up your ass, you elitist bastards.
(Note: This rant written in 2003. I’m not nearly as bitter now ;) )
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I, personally, would not want to work with my husband. However, if I met someone great at work I wouldn’t let that keep me from pursuing a relationship. I’d just probably have to quit when it got serious because, no matter how much I love them, I do not want to be with them 24 hours a day.
True dat, Jenn!
I personally would not date anyone that I worked with that I had to see on a daily basis. But that’s because I fuck up every relationship, so it’s bound to end badly and result in awkwardness
I understand the reasoning behind policies around dating co-workers and clients…however, you’re right that when you’re in the working world, where else would you meet someone?
Karma bounces back on you. When those people wind up divorced and dive into the dating pool at work, remind them (and everybody else at work) of how hypocritical they are.
At my last job there had been three married couples at one point in time, but only one was still married. Eventually that last couple divorced too, only they made it interesting for all of us - they went on the Dr. Phil tv show and for three days publicly humiliated themselves and each other. THEN they came back to work and told us all about it, so when the show was aired we could all watch. They looked like the biggest asses ever.
I “got mine” at work, and couldn’t be happier. Come to think of it, the very basis for our relationship is probably talking shit about co-workers. :mrgreen:
I know Molly McMarried and she is a complete bitch.
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