The trick is to continue to trust, be open minded, be caring and warm and empathetic while still protecting yourself. And that means learning the red flags, listening to your instincts…if you get the feeling something is wrong, it IS. You should never have to guess what someone feels for you. If you find yourself not knowing, that’s the exact time to start listening to that inner voice and paying attention to red flags.

The very last thing you are is stupid.

Wow, look at all the assvice I’ve given in the past three comments. I think I should go back to bed now before I continue.

You were brave enough to take a leap of faith, and lucky enough to find out quickly that he wasn’t worth it.
Plenty of people spend years ignoring the signs and deluding themselves…it hurts much more finding out a couple of years down the line.
You’re actually astute enough to save yourself the time.
Bravo